We have all done it and regretted it afterwards. We are
either drawn into or feel the need to volunteer our help or opinion in
someone else’s situation. It may be a simple neighbor dispute, child
rearing issues, a family squabble or the worst possible case, a crisis
of romance. What generally happens? The party we were attempting to
“help” uses our support to bolster their position, but then they
reconcile, and that well intended shoulder provided to that friend or loved one comes back to haunt us, our words of “comfort” often putting us on the outs with both parties!
“Do
not wear another man’s hat” was salient advice given early in the last
century. Simply, we do not engage in gossip, seemingly well-intended
little character assassinations or take sides when family, romance or
the heart is involved. When we do we don the “other man’s hat” and pay
accordingly. Our course is simple but not easy, in prayer we invoke love
for all involved, leaving their judgment to a Power Greater than
Ourselves, seeking only to be of service without being negative, keeping
our opinions close to the vest, between ourselves and God. This will
take time and practice to become a working part of the mind but it is
the path that leads to serenity and we will avoid those hard looks and cold
shoulders over the holiday dinner table or backyard fence.
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