We have all done it and regretted it afterwards. We are
either drawn into or feel the need to volunteer our opinion in
someone else's situation. It may be a simple dispute between neighbors, a child
rearing issue, a family squabble or something at the work place. The worst
possible case is a crisis
of romance. What generally happens? The party we were attempting to
“help” uses our good intentions to bolster their position, putting us at odds
with the other party for in their mind we have now taken a "side". If it
is in the relationship arena if they
reconcile that "well intended" support often comes back to haunt us, our words
of “comfort” often putting
us on the outs with both parties!
“Do not wear another man’s hat” was salient advice given early in the last century by Emmet Fox. Simply, in order to avoid unintended consequences we refrain from gossiping, seemingly well-intended little character assassinations or take sides when family, romance or the heart is involved. If we fail to do this we don the “other man’s hat” and pay accordingly. Our course is simple but not easy, in silent prayer we invoke love for all involved, seeking only to be of service without being negative, being supportive but keeping our opinions close to the vest lest they come back to bite us. It will take time and practice for this to become habit, and none of us will do it perfectly, but it is the path that provides serenity and will help us avoid those hard looks and cold shoulders at work over the holiday dinner table or the backyard fence.
“Do not wear another man’s hat” was salient advice given early in the last century by Emmet Fox. Simply, in order to avoid unintended consequences we refrain from gossiping, seemingly well-intended little character assassinations or take sides when family, romance or the heart is involved. If we fail to do this we don the “other man’s hat” and pay accordingly. Our course is simple but not easy, in silent prayer we invoke love for all involved, seeking only to be of service without being negative, being supportive but keeping our opinions close to the vest lest they come back to bite us. It will take time and practice for this to become habit, and none of us will do it perfectly, but it is the path that provides serenity and will help us avoid those hard looks and cold shoulders at work over the holiday dinner table or the backyard fence.
© Vincent Lee Jones Living In Spirit
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