Secondly, and most importantly, when speaking about our lives there
needs to be a good reason
for the conversation. If things are going well, of course a simple
declarative statement is desirable, but if an area of life; family,
health, work, etc is bothersome then we must be on guard lest we may
place ourselves in danger of
stoking the fires of resentment. The pitfall of drifting into
condemnation while airing our "problems" to a sympathetic ear places us
at risk, the risk of morbid reflection.
The
concept that “talking” about something troubling us will make us feel
better is only a half truth. It only has lasting value if the purpose of
the conversation is to explore solutions, not to merely vent. We have
all vented at times in our lives, what happened? In the moments
following the rant we did feel better, but just like the temporary
relief felt when short on cash and a forgotten twenty is found in the
pocket of the pants worn last week, it fades as soon as we shift from
the gratitude
of finding the cash to “it’s only a twenty” thinking. Often I have
had a student say they felt better after “getting something off their
chest” but unless a definite course of action to address the problem or
situation is entered into (i.e. prayer, meditation and service), all
that was really accomplished was “letting off a little steam” which is
fine in the short run but does nothing to address the continuing source
of the heat.
When we abstain from negative thinking and talk, from feeding
the inner beast of self-pity and self-centered fear, instead turning our
thoughts and heart to a
Power Greater Than Ourselves that is wisdom and guidance immanent and the only real barrier to morbid reflection we
save ourselves from needless mental and spiritual wear and tear. So, how
are you doing? It really is another beautiful day in paradise.
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